Relationship Sex Talk

5 Hard Truth About Losing Your Virginity

Does it hurt? What If I torn my hymen eating a pizza? This question is often times asked both by men and womenThe first time you have vaginal sex, it may hurt, or feel good, or both. There might be pain and bleeding the first time a p**nis or fingers go into your vagina, but it doesn’t happen to everybody

Here are five things to expect;

  • Hard Truth: It’s May Not Feel So Great

I would never say that it doesn’t feel good at all during a woman’s first time, because I can’t speak for all woman. In my personally experience, it felt weird and foreign; a pressure that I wasn’t sure was good or bad. I also have other friends who liked the way it felt, but agreed that it felt a bit out of place. If you’re having penis-in-vagina sex, it’s your vagina’s first introduction to a penis, unless you’ve been using dildos during masturbation, so it’s bound to feel not as great as it may for a man. But once you have a few practice rounds, it gets much better.

  • It Doesn’t Have To Hurt

    If your first time involves penetration, a little pain or pressure might be expected. That said, it should still be overall pleasurable — not painful. So if it hurts a lot, stop. This could be a signal that you need more foreplay or lubrication

  • Don’t Expect To Have An Orgasm Right Away

Yes, orgasms are fantastic, but don’t just focus on when/how/if you’re going to get there. Getting to know one another’s bodies is as much a part of the sexual experience as orgasm, being able to learn what your partner likes and doesn’t like is part of the fun. It can take some people literally years before they figure out how to orgasm with another person, so don’t expect it to happen right off the bat.

  • Your Hymen Doesn’t Pop

Seriously! The hymen is majorly misunderstood. So if you’re picturing something sealing off your vagina like moin-moin, know that’s just not the case. AT ALL. “The hymen consists of thin folds of stretchy tissue that are just inside the vaginal opening. It may tear or stretch the first time you have sex — causing some discomfort or a little bleeding — but it’s not something you can break or that disappears once you have sex

  • Your Pum-Pum Is Not A Gift

When you’re in a relationship (or, you know, a sorta-kinda-maybe-relationship) and start to feel like there are expectations on the other end, just remember that you never owe someone sex, no matter how nice they are, or much they spent on impressing you, or that it’s their whatever-month anniversary, birthday or anything else. Yes, we know. You’re looking for a heavenly sign that it’s time. But the truth is, that sign won’t come from anyone else … it has to come from you.

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